I am being pressured to marry at 21

I completed my KDF training last year. I am 21 years old, and I don’t feel ready for marriage, but pressure from my parents to marry is bothering me. What should I do? I am stressed. 

Hello
I am glad you're asking and not mindlessly bowing to external pressures.

First, you shouldn't marry because your parents want you to, but instead marry when you feel ready psychologically and financially. High-value men don't marry blindly; they make decisions based on the quality of life they want for themselves and their families.

A man with no goals and vision will drift into marriage without purpose; they will marry just anyone. Not a quality person with whom they can join to build an empire and lead a productive life.

This man may seem to fit well into the societal expectations of getting married at a certain age, or just because he got a job. As for you, be different, marry consciously, and at the right time.

Your life is just beginning at 21. Your mental development has yet to mature. You should wait until you're at least 25. You need to study women and marriage. You need to put effort into personal development.

Your parents have lived their lives and their choices. It's time to make your choices and lay the foundations for your family and empire. On this, be very selfish. Get knowledge and coaching as much as possible.

Also, when they tell you to marry, what type of woman are they pushing you towards? And what does marriage mean to them?

The average man marries any type of woman and keeps her on a tight leash. This culture tells him that women are not to be trusted but instead controlled. 

Elite men, however, do not follow that route. Instead, they take the model of large corporations when they hire their top management. What do they do? They filter the candidates through a multi-level interview process. 

Applicants may be interviewed five or seven times, and there are eliminations at every stage. 

But once you successfully get through the whole process, there is a huge payoff.

These large companies have too much to lose in a bad hire, and that's why they don't take shortcuts. 

Only men with little to lose sleep around with applicants during the dating interviews. In some contexts, the term layman refers to an untrained man. Be careful of men who want to get laid. They're usually very average. 

Elite men, like wealthy companies, need a competent manager as a wife. That's why they invest in a rigorous hiring process to ensure they don't risk their treasures or hire an incompetent person.

Elite men are highly selective because they're highly invested. They may not have the wealth now, but they're on their way to it. Sometimes, society notices that a young man is making money and pressures him to get married quickly, just like they're doing to you.

'You need someone to take care of your money. You should get offspring quickly, just in case something happens to you. If you don't get married fast, other women will come to take your money. It's better when you have your own wife to take care of.'

Typically, this young man will be like you -  a brilliant worker in his field who achieves career success in his early or mid-twenties. He doesn't know the world enough yet. He doesn't fully understand who he is, the dynamics of marriage, and how to choose the right woman.

So, pressed upon by his family, he marries the next available girl. And that becomes the biggest mistake of his life. 

Blind marriage usually precipitates chaos in a prince's life, as it would be if a multinational corporation hired a random guy on the street. Not all women have the capacity to match such a young man. But how can he understand things like capacity when he's young and naive?

He doesn't even understand how different he is from other men himself. That's why he accepts advice from people who have never walked on the path he's on. Of course, he can get lucky and land on a good woman, but that's as hard as shooting while blindfolded and hitting the bull's eye. 

It just doesn't happen. Misalignment is the most common outcome. 

If he doesn't realise it and backtracks quickly, his life will be consumed by the stress of being unequally yoked and co-parenting with someone with whom he doesn't share values and mindsets. In short, elite men or high-value men are highly disciplined. They don't consider celibacy a dry spell. 

Delayed gratification and self-mastery are their lifestyle. Princes live on principles, while an average man is ruled by his appetites. High-value men don't have a scarcity mindset because they embody abundance themselves. They don't just scatter their seed anyhow. 

They're patient and far-sighted. They don't get carried away by the culture of lust and short-term desires. This man marries a queen because he's patient enough to search until he finds her.  And when he finds her, he can spoil her enormously because she's safe to invest in and build with.

Elite men operate from a different energy. You should be assertive and wait until you've built solid.